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Hugs and Affirmation

20 Oct

From “Practical Theology for Women”  – Oct 10, 2011

Hugs and Affirmation

I am reminded daily of the interconnected nature of my parenting and my theology. Last week, I was at my wits end trying to figure out how to discipline my younger son, who is not normally the challenging child in our family. He was having a hard week, acting out angrily and then throwing out emotionally charged language at me when disciplined – “I hate you.” “You don’t want to be my mommy.” “You don’t love me.” And even more disturbing – “I don’t like myself.” “I don’t want to be in this world.”

What in the world?! Where was he getting that stuff? The acting out was escalating, along with the emotional verbal aftermath. I brought this burden with me into our mom’s group Bible study last week. As we shared our burdens for our children, one mom told how she had been intentionally affirming and hugging her problem child multiple times a day and the difference that was making in her child’s attitude. I thought, could it really be that simple?! But I felt burdened afterwards that I should do the same with my son.

I knew that giving him extra hugs and affirmation at random times of the day wouldn’t change how I handled his outbursts. I wasn’t going to hug and affirm him if he hit his brother. But I was hoping that if I hugged him and affirmed him when he was behaving, then when the time came to discipline him when he sinned, he would receive it from me without going into his You-hate-me-and-I-hate-myself routine.

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10 Ways for Younger Women to Connect with Older Women

2 Oct

10 Ways for Younger Women to Connect with Older Women. (Click this title to read the full article)

This article was written by blogger Lauren Farmer, who serves as an Event Project Coordinator for LifeWay’s Women’s Training and Events and helps leaders understand the life of a college age woman in this post today.

Excerpt:  “A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to lead breakout sessions for college girls on the topic of preparing for life after college at one of LifeWay college event’s, Collegiate Week. Not only was it a sweet time of refreshment and encouragement for me personally, I also got to meet and get to know some amazing young women. I was overwhelmed by the number of girls who stayed after the sessions ended to talk, share, and ask questions. I was most overwhelmed by the number of girls who told me that the session was “exactly what they had needed to hear” or that no one was talking about these issues (or at least doing so honestly). I don’t say this to toot my own horn at all… rather I want to encourage you as leaders to continue to invest and speak into the lives of a younger women. And, do so with authenticity. You don’t have to be perfect or have it all together. Just be yourself. Be honest. Be real. Walk with them through life.”

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